Comparing ourselves to others is something we have all struggled with. Comparison for me started at a young age through school and sports. I always wanted to be the fastest, the strongest and even the tallest!
As we get older we start focusing on who is the smartest, the funniest, the prettiest? It’s a character flaw that lives within in us and these days it’s usually triggered by endless scrolling through social media.
How to Stop Comparing Yourself to Others
We have to work toward becoming more mindful of our thoughts. Practise the following steps to help you break the habit of comparing yourself to others.
- Having a Social Media Detox
- Avoid Stalking Certain People
- Unfollow Accounts that Trigger Unhealthy Comparison
- Follow Social Media Accounts that Uplift You
- Being Supportive of Others
- Work on Yourself and Practise Self Love
“Comparison is the thief of joy.” —Theodore Roosevelt
Realising That Social Media Is an Illusion
We start comparing ourselves to others on social media which causes negative and destructive thoughts. This can lead to us trying to be more like others and believing we can have it through gimmicky ploys that are sold to us.
Things like waist trainers and skinny teas. Something we would never be tricked into buying when we’re confident in who we are. However, this is the power comparing ourselves to others has over us.
It’s human nature to be competitive and to want to be the best. When we’re not what we perceive as “the best” is can steal joy from our lives. We need to become more mindful of the fact that whilst someone may have something amazing happen in their lives. They don’t often show all the rejections that perhaps happened before the win
Having a Social Media Detox
Social media especially Instagram is full of edited and filtered to perfection images that often trigger us to start comparing ourselves to others. There is absolutely nothing wrong with having a beautiful and curated feed and inspiring others with our imagery.
However, it can cause destructive thoughts if we start to believe this is real life. When I find myself becoming focused on the number of “likes” I’m getting, I realise that it’s probably time to have a social media detox.
To start focusing on the people in my life and refocus on my life goals and what I’m trying to achieve.
Being Supportive of Others
When your energy is focused on comparing yourself or making yourself feel better by tearing others down you’re only hurting yourself. There’s nothing more empowering than women building up other women (or anyone building up anyone for that matter).
Building others up doesn’t take away from you or your success, it only adds to it. It can be easy to become and remain jealous of what someone else has or does but you will start to feel a thousand times better if you start to change your mindset towards others.
When we stop looking at others as competitors or threats to us we can start to see them as motivational or inspiring.
Work on Yourself and Practise Self Love
In this self-love series, I’ll be sharing tips on embracing our flaws, mindfulness and mindset, self-care, confidence and so much more!