Last year I travelled interstate and overseas to take training seminars for work. These training seminars required me to stand in front of a room full of strangers and not only speak but teach these groups of strangers how to use our new website platform. Here’s how I had the confidence and self-esteem to do it!
After starting my Facebook group, the Self-Love for Success Tribe! All about supporting one another in self-development, self-esteem, self-care and so much more, I thought this was a great topic to speak on.
I went live in the group talking all about self-esteem and public speaking and how I ensure I’m prepared and confident on the day.
Often people with low self-esteem have a belief that they’re not worthy.
As a speaker, if you don’t believe in yourself, your message or what you’re teaching can become extremely tough and hard to show conviction.
How to Build Self-Esteem for Public Speaking
Before anything, you have to believe in yourself and what you’re talking about. So what can you do when you’re terrified of public speaking?
Ask Questions Before Public Speaking
Before you jump in front of a room full of people, make sure you are prepared. Ask questions like:
- Where will the event be?
- How many people will be attending?
- Who will be attending?
Knowing your audience will ensure that you can prepare your speech accordingly.
Know What You’re Talking About
This comes down to finding what you’re passionate about and speaking on that because people can tell when you don’t care.
More importantly, don’t think that you can stand in front of a crowd and bullshit them because you know it and they know it. Be prepared and be an expert!
When you speak too fast you look stressed and unrehearsed. If you slow down you’ll feel that you look more confident which will make you feel more confident.
Don’t be afraid to take a deep breath and have a drink of water before moving on to your next sentence.
Don’t Be Afraid of Silence
There will be silence because people are listening to what they have to say. However, if you struggle with low self-esteem it may seem like no one is interested in what you have to say or you’ll start to feel like they’re bored.
Try to change your mindset to understand the fact that they’re absorbing all of the knowledge you are providing them with. Instead of you filling the gaps try asking questions and getting the crowd involved.
Be Warm and Inviting – SMILE!
Sometimes we might think certain people don’t like us (especially if we struggle with low self-esteem) or we think we have to act a certain way.
By being your friendly, warm and inviting self you’re ensuring your audience feel more comfortable which, in turn, will ensure you feel more comfortable.
Address and Involve People
When you start public speaking try to get to know the people you are speaking to (if possible). Then when you’re speaking remember to address certain people so they feel involved.
Always Have The Answers
What I mean by this is know what you’re talking about but of course, some people are going to try and trip you up. Don’t let them!
Always know what you’re talking about and if you don’t, answer them with, “this isn’t my area of expertise Bob, BUT I’ll find out from the right person and get back to you.”
Make sure you do get back them because they’ll remember this and it will make a great impression on them.
Try not to worry too much what people will think because at the end of the day we all go home and back to our own lives.
I hope this blog will help you in some way overcome your fear of public speaking and to help boost your self-esteem!